Parents in Pain, By John White

Parents in Pain

by John White

Parents in Pain
  • Length: 245 pages
  • Published: June 22, 1979
  • Imprint: IVP
  • Item Code: 0582
  • ISBN: 9780877845829

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A police car rolls up in front of your house--with your son in the back seat.

A voice on the phone says your daughter is all right but won't tell you where she is--and then hangs up.

A wallet disappears from your dresser and you're sure who took it--at least, somewhat sure.

Many parents face problems beyond their ability to cope. John White ofers comfort to parents of children with severe problems--alcoholism, homosexuality, even suicide. Though he gives practical suggestions, this is not a how-to manual for making rebellious children behave. Rather the author helps all parents deal with their own guilt, frustration, anger and sense of inadequacy.

White first asks, Why has the child rearing become such a complicated task? He looks to common sense, science and the Bible for an answer. Next he focuses on the parent-child relationship itself as trust erodes, arguments arise and the need for professional or legal counsel develops. Finally, he cautions us to avoid parenting techniques which emphasize pragmatism at the expense of what is moral and just.

A book of comfort and counsel to parents in pain.


I. It Ain't That Simple
1. The Age of Uncertainty
2. Whose Fault?
3. False Comfort

II. Parents in Pain
4. Erosion of Trust: The Pain Begins
5. Storms and Peace
6. The Threat to the Marriage
7. Professional Help
8. In Trouble with the Law

III. Beyond Pragmatism
9. Relinquishment
10. From Utopia to Galilee
11. Toward Human Dignity
12. The Model Parent
13. Dialogue with Divinity


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John White

John White (1924–2002) was the author of twenty-five books, including Daring to Draw Near, Excellence in Leadership, and The Cost of Commitment. He served as a medical missionary, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Manitoba, and a church planter and leader in the Vineyard Church movement. A much sought-after speaker, he lectured around the world at churches, conferences, and leadership events.