Why Do I Feel Like This?
"Why do I feel this way?"
Sometimes life is a mess and we get overwhelmed by all sorts of conflicting, difficult emotions. We might be stressed or weary, anxious or fearful, paralyzed by insecurity or crushed by pain. Worse yet, some well-meaning people invalidate our feelings and tell us to just cheer up and forget our worries.
Rather than bypass the reality of our feelings, we need to enter into them and listen to what they're telling us. Psychology professor and personal development coach Dr. Peace Amadi helps us navigate the complexity of our emotions, from discouragement and hurt to trauma and depression. She explains the dynamics underlying what we feel and gives practical resources for living through our emotions in healthy ways.
With insights from both psychology and Scripture, this book offers you a clear plan to get your peace and freedom back and find your joy again.
"It comes naturally to avoid what we don't want to feel—especially if we believe we can't heal, that we can't survive the journey into our own pain. Yet I've learned that difficult emotions don't go away—they just go underground. And there they undermine our foundations until finally we must turn our attention their way. In this book you'll find tools for acknowledging complex emotions, bringing them into the light, and welcoming God's healing work. And you'll discover how to move toward a fuller, more hopeful, more compassionate life."
"Few bridges have been built to connect scientific psychological research and practice with spiritual faith communities. Dr. Peace Amadi's book builds this necessary bridge. It offers tangible tools, helping those struggling with mental health difficulties to better understand how to improve their mental health. This is a gift to the Christian community."
"In this bracing book, Peace Amadi presents a compelling call for women of faith to examine how intertwined their emotional and spiritual health are—and should be. She offers clear-eyed, accessible advice for determining why our lives fall out of balance, and lays out how to regain clarity and power. Read this book. Better yet, read it and discuss it with other women of faith, and grow together."
"For far too many of us, important conversations around the emotional realities of anxiety, shame, and depression have been glossed over in the name of trusting God. We've all had experiences of receiving well-meaning but ultimately deeply unhelpful advice that equates having faith in God with being free of any emotional struggle. However, in this timely book, Dr. Peace Amadi shows us a path to a different way. With stunning clarity, wisdom, and compassion, she helps us learn how to reframe the important inner work of engaging with God through our emotions, even when it's difficult and confusing. Her profound expertise in psychology, vibrant faith, and warmth come together to create a unique resource that feels like we're somehow sitting in her classroom and at the same time having a heart-to-heart over coffee with a trusted spiritual mentor and friend. You'll be glad that you invested in the spiritual and emotional foundations of your own life with the embodied wisdom and practical tools that this book has to offer."
"Dr. Peace Amadi recognizes that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to therapy, and her book beautifully navigates different pathways to find solutions to different situations. This is an excellent book for therapists to start learning about different strategies to use within their practices. It is also an excellent read for those who want to live their lives to the fullest by not only understanding their emotions but managing and honoring them as well. You will find yourself and not want to put this book down!"
"Why Do I Feel Like This? by Peace Amadi helps us navigate the complexity of our emotions. Peace will remind us that it is okay to not be okay."
"If your trauma has ever made you feel alienated in your own body, culture, and spiritual community—this book is a salve. It chucks all of the infuriatingly trite but well-meaning advice out the window in favor of practicable, scientifically backed wisdom placed in a spiritual context. Dr. Peace Amadi uses years of clinical experience and teaching to help us befriend and understand our emotions as our body and spirit's best portal for growth. In a comprehensive approach, she breaks down the barriers and stigmas around getting the help we deserve. If you're feeling lost, alone, or overwhelmed, this book is a beautiful road map to healing."
Introduction: It's Who We Are
1. The Danger of Spiritual Bypassing
2. Uncovering Our Core Beliefs
3. Trauma: Our Need to Tell Our Story
4. Hurt: Our Need to Recover What’s Lost
5. Discouragement: Our Need for Confidence and Courage
6. Anxiety: Our Need to Feel Safe
7. Sadness and Depression: Our Need for Healthy Thinking, Connection, and Meaning
8. Envy: Our Need for Enoughness
9. Shame: Our Need for Radical Love
10. When and How to Find Therapy
Epilogue: The Night Shines Like Day
Small Group Discussion Guide