Forgiving and Reconciling: Bridges to Wholeness and Hope, By Everett L. Worthington Jr.

Forgiving and Reconciling

Bridges to Wholeness and Hope

Revised Edition

by Everett L. Worthington Jr.

Forgiving and Reconciling
  • Length: 268 pages
  • Dimensions: 6 × 9 in
  • Published: August 26, 2003
  • Imprint: IVP
  • Item Code: 3244
  • ISBN: 9780830832446

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All of us have suffered painful emotional and relational hurts. God calls us to forgive those who have hurt us, but that's often easier said than done. We don't usually know how to forgive others, nor are we always sure if we have truly forgiven them.

Psychologist and counselor Everett L. Worthington Jr., the leading Christian researcher on forgiveness, says that forgiving is a gift we give to others. When we offer forgiveness to others as an altruistic gift, it is more effective than when we forgive only for our own benefit in an effort to "get over" the hurt. True forgiveness is accomplished through a careful process of understanding both the offense and the offender and taking active steps to forgiveness. In this insightful and practical book, Worthington provides a wealth of clinically proven tools and exercises for moving toward forgiveness.

Worthington's expertise comes not only from years of scientific research but also from the experience of the brutal murder of his own mother. His convictions were put to the test as he worked through his conflicting emotions and rage toward the murderer. He found that the principles of Christian forgiveness enabled him to forgive even his mother's killer.

While forgiveness is something that we can do on our own, reconciliation involves another party. Worthington brings both themes together and shows how we can move beyond forgiveness and cross the bridge to reconciliation. This book, previously published as Five Steps to Forgiveness, has been fully revised to make clear the scriptural foundations of Christian forgiveness. Biblical, authoritative and pastorally sound, this guide will be of help to anyone who wants to find the freedom of forgiveness.

"This is a terrific book; it is the most practical of all the books on forgiveness. More than that, it is a sheer delight to read, and at times very moving."

Lewis Smedes, author of Forgive and Forget

"Dr. Worthington's book and program offer a simple, compassionate way to achieve the gift of true forgiveness."

Jimmy Carter, former president of the United States, Nobel Peace Prize laureate


Preface to the Revised Edition


Part 1: Why We Forgive
1. Why Forgive?
2. Unforgiveness, Justice and Forgiveness
3. The Christian Foundation of Forgiving

Part 2: How to REACH Forgiveness
4. R: Recall the Hurt
5. E: Empathize
6. A: Altruistic Gift of Forgiveness
7. C: Commit Publicly to Forgive
8. H. Hold onto Forgiveness

Part 3: How to Reconcile
9. Decisions
10. Discussion
11. Detoxification
12. Devotion


Subject Index

Scripture Index


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Everett L. Worthington Jr.

Everett L. Worthington Jr. (PhD, University of Missouri) is professor of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University. He is a licensed clinical psychologist and former executive director of the Templeton Foundation's A Campaign for Forgiveness Research. Worthington has studied forgiveness since the 1980s and has published more than two hundred articles and papers on forgiveness, marriage and family, psychotherapy, and virtue in a wide variety of journals and magazines. He was the founding editor of Marriage and Family: A Christian Journal and sits on the editorial boards of several professional journals. He has appeared on Good Morning America, CNN, and The 700 Club, and been featured in award-winning documentary movies on forgiveness such as The Power of Forgiveness and The Big Question. He is the author of seventeen books including Handbook of Forgiveness, Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling, and Forgiving and Reconciling.